Thursday, April 17, 2014

Life's Jigsaw - Obsessions

Life is like a jigsaw puzzle. Each little piece is an aspect of our journey through it. And when at last we find that last piece and fit it into place, we eventually see the meaning of this life.


UBC Day 17
The O Piece - Obsessions

Nature teaches us so beautifully that all things must balance.

But as human beings we are obsessed with achieving at any cost, we are obsessed with academics, we are obsessed with being wealthy, we are obsessed with finding love, we are obsessed with having the perfect body, we are obsessed with being one up on others, we are obsessed with reaching the top in our work, we are obsessed with having the fancy car and the mansion.

We believe that when we have got all of that, then we are successful and life is good. And when we fail to achieve all of that, dissatisfaction and frustration sets in.

Some obsessions are unhealthy and unfortunately create imbalances in our lives and in that chase for what we classify as success we forget to live, to appreciate all that we have, what the world holds for us.

I too went down many an obsessive path. Perhaps my greatest obsession was in having the perfect body. I've been on so many diets and exercise regimes. And the harder I tried the more annoyed I got when the weight that fell away a little, wouldn't shift any further. I was at the gym or at the karate class, or walking.

My life was just whizzing by and I was missing out on the little things. Like watching some TV with my kids, helping them with their homework, playing a game with them, just conversing with them about anything in life. And all because I was obsessed with finding perfection.

"Perfection is not something you strive for, you are already in a state of perfection" was a message given to me one night just at the point when I was about to fall asleep.

I stopped the madness in time and cut back on all that crazy exercising. Yes, the weight came back on but now I share many moments with my children. And what would I do with the perfect body anyway. I am as I am meant to be and I am perfect just the way I am.

If we must have an obsession, let it be for something good, let it be such that it doesn't create imbalances. Be obsessed with living in joy, be obsessed with having a healthy mind, spirit and body, be obsessed with helping others and making a difference in their lives, be obsessed with kindness, be obsessed with compassion, be obsessed with respect for all, be obsessed with healthy loving.

I never lose an opportunity to speak about my obsession: 
humankind and the environment
 ~ Yann Arthus-Bertrand


Enjoy life and now and then, more often than not, do stop and smell the roses.


Written for: A to Z Challenge and The Ultimate Blogging Challenge


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32 comments:

  1. I think I'm obsessed with my blog sometimes that I ignore my family for it...or at times I get so engrossed with reading that even after my husband comes home after work I stay glued to my book...I think striking the balance is important and anything we do mustn't be unhealthy or obsessive as you say..another thought provoking post Suzy..

    O for Ostracized-Random Thoughts Naba

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    1. I echo what Naba said above, I do the same and husband has to face the brunt but I am obsessed with many other things as well. TO some extent is ok but when it crosses threshold limit it is dangerous..

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  2. Obsession should be used like a tool to achieve the positive things in life......

    PhenoMenon
    http://throodalookingglass.com/2014/04/oats-interesting-ways-to-eat/

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  3. So true ! We are all obsessed, with our own devils ! We must move away from all such negative obsessions & learn to smile & share !

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    1. Thanks Vasudha. Let's embrace healthy obsessions not destructive ones.

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  4. I used to be obsessed with weight loss but then later, realized with obsession came frustration and then depression, so never bothered after that. Am healthy now and have learnt to accept it. :) Acceptance is the key. However, I am obsessed about my kitchen and can't handle anyone else using it.

    http://jiljilramamani.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Deepa. So true that acceptance is the key.

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  5. Obsession is very dangerous... :( But we can't do anything about it, may be we can reduce the intensity but couldn't totally get rid of it nah?? We should try to sort our priorities I guess

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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    1. Yes Sri - sort out our priorities and try not to be too obsessive. But agree tough to do.

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  6. Obsessions can never be good, except the obsession to be happy.

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    1. True Kathy. Focus on positive obsessions.

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  7. I agree with you, Suzy. Obsessing over something can make us lose sight of reason. It is always healthy to maintain balance.

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    1. Thanks Cynthia. You summed that up so well.

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  8. Obsessions . . .. weight loss and fitting into smaller clothes has something that I battle a couple times a year for about 6 months or so each time :) Just when I think I can let it go, someone takes a group picture, then it starts all over again. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Thanks Catherine. I think that's one obsession we have all been guilty of.

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  9. Such a thoughtfulness post Suzy...
    Aptly said perfection is not we strive for,we already in a state of perfection

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    1. Thanks Sitara. Glad you liked it.

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  10. there r so many thngs i obsess over too suzy! i felt like this post was written for me, telling me to let go of those n enjoy my life! thank u :-)

    http://swathishenoy.blogspot.in/2014/04/o-for-optimism.html?m=1
    a-z participant

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    1. Thanks Swathi. Glad my post was helpful.

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  11. Quite a helpful post, Suzy. Really nicely expressed. I also appreciate that you also speak of how some obsessions can be good :)

    Beauty Interprets, Expresses, Manifests the Eternal

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    1. Thanks Beloo. Glad you thought this was helpful.

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  12. Obsessions motivates us to a certain extent. If it becomes negative it becomes destructive.

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  13. Obsession to help others and making a difference to their lives is a good one. I too have tried so hard to lose weight but have accepted myself the way I am and enjoying this freedom.

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    1. I think we all have Sulekha. Losing weight seems to be everyone's favourite thing to do.

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  14. I used to obsess about having a picture-perfect house but I realize that that is a pip-dream! So, now I cause less stress to my family and myself!! :D

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    1. Letting go of obsessions is liberating. I'm sure your house is perfect just the way it is.

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  15. I am obsessed with my blog and writing. If I don't do something creative, it gives me anxiety ... I do want a fat body, but thankfully I don't get to much obsessed with it.

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    1. As long as your obsession with writing is helpful, it's okay. Thanks Rajlakshmi.

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