Pulling Tips Out Of A Bag

For the Write Tribe Festival - Rediscovering your blogging groove

Day 5 - Write A Tip Post

I struggled to find a topic and write a whole lot of tips around that.

So instead I thought I'd just pull a few out of the bag

On Writing:

• Cultivate your own unique style and forget about the many Do's and Don'ts you'll come across. It's not in keeping with the norm that extraordinary things are born (Read my full post on Writing Tips)

On Strengths and Weaknesses

• Don't waste your time on overcoming weaknesses. Focussing on weaknesses makes you mediocre. Focus instead on your strengths and become great. 

On Life

• Make peace with your life just the way it is and then go with the flow

Share a few of your tips on all of the above and throw in any other favourite ones too.


Be blessed, stay blessed.


Related posts:
Day 1 - Write a List  - When Life Disappoints
Day 2 - Answer a Question -  What Would You Wish For
Day 3 - Book Review - Afterlife of Billy Fingers
Day 4 - A Link Post - Linking some blog linkups



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UBC Day 12 Failure

Day 12  Ultimate Blogging Challenge

Oprah's 10th Question

My Favourite Failure

Alright, now that we've covered the good stuff, let's talk about the biggest, most glorious, crashing-in-flames failure in your life.

Oprah asks the toughest questions. Had to think a lot about this but finally came up with this  ...

There have been several incidents in my working life, where people have verbally abused and insulted me. At those times, I was incredibly hurt and upset and broke down in tears. Thank goodness for some great managers who took the miscreants to task.

But for me these are personal failures and collectively my favourite failure. Why? because after the 5th time that occurred, I did a lot of soul searching and through that it aroused something in me that has now made me stand tall and strong. I feel the power within me to stay Stop.

I'm a firm believer that the Universe presents the situation again and again until the lesson is learned. It was time to show that while I look soft and gentle, I am made of tough stuff and won't let you walk all over me.

Knowing where to draw the line and say enough is enough and taking a stand for myself is a lesson I learned well, albeit the hard way.

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“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.  In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”  ~  Maya Angelou

May this be your day to shine.


Check out these awesome bloggers who are also taking part in the UBC challenge:
  Shilpa  Kajal  Richa  Jairam  Sheethal  Kathy  Swati  Michelle  Nabanita

My previous UBC Jan 2014 posts here

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Thursday Thoughts - Behave like water

The Warrior of the Light sometimes behaves like water, flowing around the obstacles he encounters.
Occasionally, resistance might mean destruction, and so he adapts to the circumstances. 
He accepts, without complaint, that stones in his path hinder his way through the mountains.
The river adapts itself to whatever route proves possible, but the river never forgets its one objective, the sea.
So fragile at its source, it gradually gathers the strength of the other rivers it encounters.
And after a certain point, it's power is absolute.
                                                                                                ~The Warrior of the Light, Paulo Coelho




I was a strong believer in permanent jobs, perhaps this was more out of fear of losing a job than belief.

I never ever considered contracting as it was too temporary and I guess the hassle of constant interviewing somehow didn't appeal.

Then redundancy hit me and it made me take a long hard look at myself and my beliefs.

I turned down 2 offers because they were contracts and I was too afraid to take that first step from permanent to contract.
But the only jobs available were contract positions and finally I was pretty much forced into taking up a contract.

I now realise that my misconceived beliefs or in other words my resistance to contracting was limiting the many possibilities and opportunities that were available.

Adapting to the circumstances has liberated me and the job market for me has grown hugely.

Behave like water, adapt and be flexible.

Thursday Thoughts - Experiences Strengthen

A Warrior cannot bow his head, for if he did he would lose sight of the horizon of his dreams.
He accepts that his opponents are there to test his valour, his persistence, and his ability to make decisions. They force him to fight for his dreams.
It is the experience of battle that strengthens the Warrior of the Light
                                                                                             ~ The Warrior of the Light, Paulo Coelho


Each one of us has a major destiny to fulfill - this I call my life's work and along the way we have destiny points, like stepping stones, that lead us to that major destiny.

Those destiny points along the way are markers that prepare us for our life's work.

Some of them are easily reached and conquered and some present us with the severest test that require us to think inside and outside the square, to use the width and breadth of our knowledge, to try new avenues.

Each of these events are necessary to fulfill our major destiny. When someone tries to derail us from our track, we find a way to stay on that path, to step on that stone. And our invisible helper and constant companion, the Universe, quietly leads us on.

All our experiences define us, and the difficult ones also strengthen us.


Footnote:
This is a nice "companion" to my post   How do you find the strength to take the difficult path

Question of the day - How do you find the strength to take the difficult path?

   Finding Strength to take the difficult path - a difficult question to answer




I tried to identify some moments in my life when I've had to take a difficult path and found there were several. But the following, I think, illustrate the different "strengths" that helped me walk the difficult path:

Emigrating to a new country

Leaving my home and moving to a new country was a daunting prospect for me. I had absolutely no idea what was in store for me. Besides which, I loved living in the country of my birth and leaving family and friends behind was an extremely sad event for me. But I believed that emigrating would provide my children with better opportunities and a less stressful life. Wanting the best for your child is such a great motivator and it gives you the strength and courage to do things you never thought you could do.

The death of my father

Letting go and allowing my father to pass away peacefully is the hardest decision I have made in my life to date. Watching him struggle in the last hours of his life was heartbreaking. I was very close to my dad and though as he grew older I silently prepared for the day when I would have to say goodbye to him, you are never really prepared. Letting him go in peace was the most loving thing I could do even though it broke my heart. Love gives you immense strength.

An ended relationship

Sad, angry, lonely and very, very scared do not begin to describe the emotions I went through when my 28 year relationship ended. I had immense support from my family and friends but I also had the faith that the end came for a reason and that things always happen for the best. Someday I know I will share life with the man of my dreams, my beautiful soulmate. Faith gives me strength to go on.

Taking a stand against bullying

Taking a stand against someone in a position of power is not an easy thing to do. But I tell myself in those events ... "we do not come to work to be abused and insulted. It is my human right to be treated with dignity and respect." Sometimes I feel the fear, sometimes I don't but in all circumstances, those words give me the courage to fight back. Courage and self respect give you great strength.

When I feel I am out of my depth

About 12 years ago I was given a huge project to manage at work. I had never managed a project of this scale and I know as I walked out of my managers office the words going through my mind were ... Oh my God, I am completely out of my depth here. But I love a challenge and an opportunity to learn and grow so rapidly was thrilling and exciting. I also had a manager who supported me, had the faith and trust in me, and above all encouraged me every step of the way. Encouragement gives you great strength. And when someone puts their faith and trust in you, you find the will and the way to never let them down.