Expectation can ... #atozchallenge letter E

My theme for the 2017 AtoZ Challenge is "Daily Thoughts".

Each day I will post a thought that comes to mind. The first word of the thought will correspond with the letter of the day.

So here is my thought for the letter E

Nelson, New Zealand

Expectation can breed disharmony and be the curse of happiness.

We have so many expectations in life, of places, things and people. If we are lucky are expectations are met. But if they aren't then disappointment sets in creating disharmony and sadness.

Recently on a trip to Nelson in the South Island of New Zealand, we took a drive to a few beaches. They were so beautiful until we landed up at one in low tide. I was a tad disappointed because it looked pretty barren and the sea was so far away. For a moment it robbed me of my happiness because I expected it to be just like the others. Instead I should've admired and appreciated its own beauty.

Rugby season is on in New Zealand. Whenever I used to watch the All Blacks (The NZ Rugby team) play, I expected them to win and on the occasions when they lost, it would truly ruin my day. How unfair that we all expect them to win every game. Now I watch their games for the thrill of the game for enjoyment of what it is and not for the winning or losing.

Expectation will you let me down

Or will you my every wish fulfill

Why rely on you if you make me frown

When I can rely on my own will

Expectation I have only a few

Life is certainly happier

For when a wish comes out of the blue

Then I am filled with wonder

~x~

Have expectations been kind to you or taught you some harsh lessons? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Teaser for the letter F :  Find the  ...

Written for the #atozchallenge drop by and check out some awesome posts.

My posts so far
All roads lead to your destiny
Be like the river
Change occurs at every moment
Do or do not


Warm Regards


Tweet

Follow me on
My facebook page Suzy's Ilation
Bloglovin
Pinterest Suzy Que
Google+ Suzy Que
Instagram Suzy.Ila

Life's Journey - (e)Xpectations

Life is like a jigsaw puzzle. Each little piece is an aspect of our journey through it. And when at last we find that last piece and fit it into place, we eventually see the meaning of this life.

UBC Day 28
The X Piece - eXpectations

Taking a few liberties with the letter X .. sound rather than the start of the word.

There are many ways to make Peace from War. One of the major contributors of "war" is eXpectations of others and one of the ways to make peace is to have none.

When we have expectations of other people and when they don't live up to that expectation then dissatisfaction sets in. Expecting things from others inevitably leads to discontent. So set expectations for yourself not for others.  But set realistic expectations and know your limits as setting outlandish expectations that simply cannot be achieved can also lead to frustration.

There are of course boundaries that we do set for ourselves and having those expectations is not only okay it is necessary. For example, foul language and smoking are not permitted in my house. I expect the kids to place their plates in the kitchen after they finish, put their clothes in the laundry basket, help me bring in the groceries, have a high level of personal hygiene, be honest, have integrity, treat people well and behave well, take responsibility for their actions etc. Remembering of course that children learn best by example!

The kind of expectations I am referring to is where we expect someone to do something for us because we think they should or we believe it is our right to expect that, or be the person we want them to be or set such high expectations that they are simply not achievable by that person.

I have heard a number of times from various people "I can't change but I expect you too". Life does not work like that. All change comes from within. If you aren't prepared to change, did you really think that I would? I have watched so many people frustrated and destroyed because their expectations of others was simply not met. Frustration and destruction has a domino effect, it starts to destroy all in its path.

And yet when you do receive, remember to receive it as a gift, honour it and be thankful. The act of honouring and thankfulness itself can be a gift returned.

When we expect something from someone or expect them to do something, we are actually expecting them to live our own life. That simply isn't going to happen. Over the last 6 years I have learned that we each come with our own destiny, our own agenda for soul learning and growth and we each have to learn it in our own way and in our own time.

Relationships are one of our greatest teachers and expectations are one of our greatest destroyers.

My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, 

and in inverse proportion to my expectations. 

~ Michael J. Fox

May your happiness grow and praying that when your time comes to make that great leap of soul learning, that it comes to you in the nicest possible way. Blessings.


The Jigsaw Pieces of my journey so far

Check out some blogs participating in the AtoZ Challenge


Written for: A to Z Challenge and The Ultimate Blogging Challenge


Drop by my facebook page Suzy's Ilation and if any of your posts needs some tlc, leave a link there and I'll drop by and give it some love.

Tweet

Warm Regards